Far From a Test Dummy
Blesséd is the woman who has her heart broken more than she should in a lifetime. Blesséd is the woman who believes she is only loved—in the meantime—by men who secretly have no will to stay. Blesséd is the woman who finds confidence in herself after years of heartbreak warfare. Blesséd is the woman who values love before hate.
She is kind without being hindered from the truth.
I have learned more from meeting women than any other event in my life. Nothing has taught me more about life than a post-midnight conversation in a car within an isolated parking lot with a woman I barely know, yet has so much to tell. Or maybe a failed three year relationship with a girl I once knew. I don’t know. It really depends I guess.
Perhaps the most common truth I’ve seen is the recognition of beauty in brokenness. A woman unfamiliar to lost love will tear herself apart until she accepts the pain for what it is. If there’s one thing a horrible ex-boyfriend can teach a girl, it’s not how to cry in helplessness, but rather what she shouldn’t look for in a guy, and how she shouldn’t be for her next guy. She may cry, but she will grow. She may love again, but within the aid of wisdom. And perhaps love will take a heavy toll on her heart, but she is keen enough to understand that her pains and struggles will not waste in vain.
She will find somebody who will surely not have to mistreat her, lie to her, and lose her to realize her worth. She may even choose to remain alone once she realizes that love is not an obligation in her life, but rather an optional lifestyle for those who live in tune with it. She can be strong either way. And I’ve grown to admire women such as these who do not allow pessimism to overthrow them. They may be more realistic about things, but with a hint of hope for better things. This is beauty beyond the superficial; the valuable substance underlying the skin; the result of one man’s chaos which has become another man’s paradise.
Blesséd is the man who sees her for her potential. Blesséd is the man who will reciprocate her love and establish mutuality. Blesséd is the man who will caress her brokenness and appreciate her flaws before adoring her looks. Blesséd is the man who does not seek her to become a meantime love, but rather a prototype who also wishes for permanence.
